It’s okay to say, “I know that’s special to you and you don’t want to share it.” And after all, you probably wouldn’t want to “share” the ring your parents gave you when you graduated from high school, or that brand new pair of dress shoes you just bought. What Parents Can Do: Bear in mind that there are some things your child will not want to (and shouldn’t have to) share: A special treat given to them by their Grandma a new toy from their birthday party their favorite stuffed animal or security blanket. Keep in mind that you can’t force your kids to share any more than you can force them to eat their broccoli-but through practice, they can learn to do it. ![]() After all, learning how to share is central to a child’s ability to make and keep friends. Since sharing with others and taking turns is not a behavior that comes naturally to young children, it’s your job to teach your kids why it is so important. It’s important for you to remember that your child is at a developmental level that makes sharing extremely difficult. This is one of the toughest things you’ll deal with when it comes to young kids, both at home and at school. “My Child Won’t Share or Take Turns.”Īhhh, sharing. The important thing is that you get on the same page and try to work together with the school as much as possible. Oftentimes, the teacher will have helpful suggestions for you to try, as well. I also recommend that parents work with their child’s teachers as much as possible: let them know you are doing your best to curb aggressive behavior at home. Be sure to role play this with him, and switch roles so he can see how each side might react. In place of pushing, for example, tell your child to say something like, “I don’t like that!” or “I’m not going to play with you if you take my toys!” Another good thing to do is show your child how to walk away when he is angry or upset. You can start by teaching your toddler, pre-schooler or kindergartner a saying to use at school or home when they are angry and frustrated. Keep in mind that this will require practice and lots of repetition. I also believe it’s important to coach your little one to find his voice instead of lashing out at others. ![]() Watch them closely so that you can see when your child is starting to become upset and coach him in that moment to use his words.Ĭonsequences alone will not change his behavior–but using consequences to require your child to practice the skills he needs to develop will change behaviors. Try to have your child spend time with someone close to his age. ![]() ![]() Keep the consequences short term and give them to your child as soon as possible after they have behaved inappropriately. When things are calm, get down on their level, look them in the eye and say, “Hitting, biting, kicking and pushing are wrong and they hurt people.”īe sure to tell them what their consequence will be: “If I see you hurting anyone, or if the teacher tells me you hit someone again at pre-school today, your consequence will be no television when you get home.” What Parents Can Do: It’s up to you to let your child know that their actions will no longer be tolerated. While it’s important to recognize that what your child is doing is normal, you also need to use rules and consequences to clearly teach them how to stop behaving too aggressively. This is not to say you should excuse aggressive behavior, or that you can’t coach your child to behave appropriately on their own eventually.
0 Comments
Leave a Reply. |
AuthorWrite something about yourself. No need to be fancy, just an overview. ArchivesCategories |